Perfectionism, expectations, frustration and
the Beauty of Acceptance

So often we compare what life brings with the virtual idealization of our expectations. And we reject the real, living experience in favor of this idealized concept.

Frustration and unhappiness prevails, while we insist that we are right and life is wrong. We keep resisting.

This only changes when we fully and truly, accept, and appreciate, the exquisite beauty of the imperfect and organic quality of reality in this physical plane.

It is in our minds that we stubbornly reject the pure beauty of the unfoldment of Life. We want to have the control, and we want things and people to be exactly like our own virtual model of them: we keep forcing them into the cast of our expectations.

The truth is that, to become physical, a living “blueprint” is “squeezed” into physical matter and, in the process of becoming its manifest beingness, it is shaped by the scars and markings of the interplay between Light and Dark, day and night, cold and hot, windy weather and still air, happy days and sad times…
Everything that comes into manifestation in this plane of reality is subject to these processes and laws.

And this is the Beauty.

Imagine this tree here, all perfect, symmetric, like the pure virtual model of itself: a fabricated virtual version of a living tree: where would the beauty be, where would its poetic quality be???

In my path of learning, or rather, of not having any other choice but to surrender, I ended up being gifted with accepting the organic quality of Wholeness.

And one of the greatest blessings I have had is being inspired by the Zen presence and awareness of my dearest husband Stephen Altschuler. It is on these words that I share with you his poetic photo, so you just simply “get it”.

It is in the acceptance of what is, in its contorted, imperfect and yet sublime manifestation, that we open ourselves to a full surrender to the Wholeness of Life.

Contemplate this tree, as there is nothing more I need to say…